Freedom from limiting beliefs

I am fortunate. I am privileged. I am lucky.

I grew up in a loving family and I have always been loved unconditionally. I grew up in a wealthy country and I always had everything I needed. Whatever I did, whatever challenges I faced someone was always there to support me. All the options have always been right in front of my feet. I can decide on any career I want, go anywhere I like and be with whoever I love. I have the right and the power to make any decision concerning my life. I am not held back by anything but myself.

I am free and most likely so are you. The only thing that can hold you back is if you tether yourself to limiting beliefs. Do not convince yourself that you are not good enough, not capable or not worthy of something in life. Of course you are good enough! Maybe not right now, but you will be if you set your mind to it. Dare to dream big and go chase those dreams. Don’t hold yourself back it will only cause you misery. Every goal can be reached if you just break it down to small bits and take action one step at the time.

When I use the term limiting beliefs what I mean is beliefs that somehow prevents you from growing and pursuing your dreams. I learned about this in the INFJ Purpose blueprint course. One of my most dominant limiting beliefs is that I can not do anything that my parents will disapprove. Even though I moved away from home and I am taking care of myself without problems I need their approval for almost everything I do. I get scared if I do something they might not like and I feel guilty. subconsciously many of my decisions are based on: Would this make my parents proud? And I know it is a bit silly for a grown woman living by herself to worry about her parents thoughts on her. But that is my tether: My belief that I can do something that does not make my parents proud.

Now you might ask: How do I escape my limiting beliefs? First you need to recognize them. If you do not accept the fact that some belief of yours is in fact limiting you, then you will not be able to conquer it. Next step is to find proof that it isn’t true. Find examples of something happening to you despite that belief, something positive. A common limiting belief is the fear of rejection. You do not ask for what you want because you are afraid that you will get rejected. Look for situations in your life where you asked for something and did in fact get it. Even if it is small things. Then move to the bigger ones. Also recall situations where you did get rejected, but it wasn’t that bad. Again start with the small things. Maybe you asked to pay with your card but they said they only took cash. Was that the end of the word? Of course not, then you wouldn’t be here. You’ll start realising that your limiting belief is in fact not true at all. You can then challenge yourself to do these things that scare you and goes against that withering limiting belief. Of course it should be meaningful to you, not just disprove it. For example I would not do something just because I think my parents would dislike it, but I would do it because I believed it would make me happy no matter what my parents think.

You will find yourself relieved to get rid of these limiting beliefs and start building empowering beliefs instead. Limiting beliefs is no. 5 on the list of 15 things you should give up to be happy I like this list a lot and try my best to follow these 15 pieces of advise. I am more succesful in some areas that others. I few of them overlap a bit as well, but I believe it is just to make sure it covers it all. I find that whenever I am uncomfortable, restless, sad or angry it is due to me holding on to one of these things on the list that I should just let go (unless I’m sick and that is luckily rare). So unleash yourself from the tethers and live a happier and more fulfilling life.

via Daily Prompt: Tether

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Live in the moment

Regrets are a consequence of livening in the past. Being worried is a consequence of living in the future. Being happy is a benefit of living in the moment. Only by bringing awareness to this very second of your existence you can feel calm and happpy. So let go of the past and stop worrying about the past.

Today I realised it is a lot easier for me to do this when it’s the beginning of the holidays. Privileged and lucky as I am, I have more than 2 months of holidays this summer from university. When all the deadlines of the semester have been met it is so much easier to just relax and not worry. Then I experience many happy moments where I’m just aware that I feel good. Conscious happiness is amazing and exiting. It makes me curious how I can facilitate it again.

Living in the moment is truly amazing and I recommend it to everyone. It is relieving and it brings out the best in you. The practice of meditation can help you with this. So choose to be happy in this very second and then just take it from there.

Lessons are repeated until learned

Today I truly feel like I have something to share with you that might actually be useful and interesting for you, more than just satisfying a moment of curiosity. This weekend there’s been an event in my life which I realise now is not mayor, but however it seems to repeat in slightly different forms. It made me think of the quote

Lessons in life are repeated until they are learned

and I strongly believe in this myself. I feel like and believe it is as certain and real as the laws of Newton. Actually, even more certain than that. We are all individuals however and therefore no lessons are by definition harder or easier than any other lesson. Different people experience them differently. What might be a hard lesson for me, is maybe an easy lesson for you. The accept of this concept of lessons in life though, might help you to tackle repeating unpleasant events though. Often lesson are somehow a bit painful or otherwise uncomfortable to learn. If something happens to you that might have happened before in a slighty different way has a lesson for you. Sometimes it is easier to learn it if you know how to spot it.

Along with what I just explained I want to share this photo with you. I found it as I was searching for the quote I mentioned before. I think all of these rules have a strong message and that I will benefit from following them. Rule number 9 is one that I personally work on accepting, following and use to my advantage. It is a work in progress.

Your answers lie inside of you

I wish you all a lovely day and I hope you can learn something from this post or maybe just have something to reflect on.

#7 of 21 daily blog post

Summer has come to Denmark. Going outside has started to make me worry about sunburn. But it is lovely and the many hours of daylight is truly enjoyable. It doesn’t solve all problems but it does make it a bit easier to deal with. I’m sitting here in the garden and taking a little break before the events of the weekend.  

This weekend I will hopefully learn many new things from my fellow scout friends. We have these days of education where we teach each other a lot of cool stuff. I’m not as active as I used to be in scouting, but I still love it when I do engage in the events. Now I feel like I should invest my time differently. Honestly I’m not the best at it though. My head is filled with all kinds of things abd sometimes I wish it could just be quiet, but unfortunately I’m not able to do so. Processing thoughts is healthy I believe, but I think everyone needs a break through sometimes. 

The cool thing about this awesome place is that it gives me the opportunity to take my mind of some of the daily stuggles. I love to be around the people, breathe the fresh air and look at the beautiful nature. I recommend every finding a place where they can feel like I do here.

#6 of 21 daily blog posts

I know, I am not the best at posting every day. But this is mainly just a challenge to help me push myself to be consistent. Even if I don’t post every day it’s ok if I just improve. I want to improve my writing and I know the best way to do that is to practice.

As a mentor, I help many young students at the age anywhere from 8 to 18. So far it’s mainly been English and Maths. I love that job so much I would not change it for anything. At least not for now. Every time I learn new things about teaching or about my students and their lives. I improve my ability to explain, motivate and be patient. Since they are all different, I am challenged to adapt my approach to each of their needs. In that way, I also practice my skills in “reading” people.

Because of this job I have revisited my reflections about becoming a teacher. What holds me back is a bit odd. I want to prove I can be anything I want, so now I’ve gone for a higher academic education. Actually, I don’t even know if it is a higher degree I think it is the same level. But my level of motivation with my current studies tells me I should do something else. Another thing is the difference between teaching students 1 to 1 and then having a full class of 28 all at once. I prefer a smaller number of students at the time.

Billedresultat for decisions

Right now my struggle is: Should I stay or should I leave my studies? What do I want my future to hold? How do I get there? Is it the life as a design engineer I want? Or the life of a teacher? Or something else?

#1 of 21 daily blog posts!

Today I decided I’m going to write a blog post every day for the rest of the month. Some days it might be short ones, some days longer ones. I will share a little bit of what I am going through and more importantly what I am learning. When I learn something I want to share it so others can benefit from it as well. Today I will share some quotes with you and I would like to know what you think of them. Do you think they are true? Do they inspire you? Do they affect you in any positive way at all?

“Energy flows where attention goes”

My mom had this quote in her bedroom by the mirror. When I saw it the first time I was just a child and I didn’t understand it. But these words have returned to me later in life I know I see how it is an illuminating truth. So mind your attention and focus on what is important to you.

“If you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself, and make a change” – Michael Jackson

The king of pop gives the best piece of advice ever in this quote. That’s my opinion. Always begin with your own mistakes, not others. So many people are hesitant to change or maybe even fighting change. There are thousands of beautiful quotes about the value of change. Let me finish off by sharing with you this one:

Billedresultat for quote change gandhi

Understanding

Currently exams are approaching rather quickly. I need to get ready and my main focus in my preparations is to understand the subjects. These are some of my notes for these subjects I really struggle with. In hindsight I see I should have taken them during the semester, not just before the exam… But oh well, now I’ll just try to get the best out if it. Today I did not get to my goal of studying, but I did achieve quite a bit and that’s the most important thing. I like to make them as visual as possible. Drawings are great for my understanding of the concept and they are easy to identify when looking through many pages in a short amount of time.

Notes are essential for understanding and remembering new and complicated concepts. I wish my notetaking was better. That’s why I practice. In high school I wished I had more and better notes when approaching the exams. I think it would have helped me a lot. I never mastered the notetaking skill and gave up on it a little. In the end I just had a few pages here and there,but nothing substantial. This year in university I want to change that. I will take notes continuously and be grateful for it in the end. That’s my goal!

I picked the word “understanding” today as seen on the picture. My first thought was my studies and the coming exams. So I decided ro commit even more to my notetaking, since that is a major help for me when learning something. I you cannot learn something without understanding it. I recommend good notetaking to all of you as well, whether you study or not.

Entering a new year

Now that 2016 has ended I would like to share with you biggest achievements of the last 365 days:

  • Passed my zip wire assessment
  • Passed my aerial trek assessment
  • Completed an unknown amount of succesful sessions in a variety of activities
  • Made it to round two in my first salsa competition
  • Traveled to Switzerland to stay with a person I’ve never seen privately before
  • Wrote a mission statement
  • Passed my 3G swing assessment
  • Passed my abseiling assessment
  • Passed my multi ropes assessment
  • Started journaling
  • Started meditating
  • Shot 6 bullseyes in a row
  • Got countless compliments for my salsa and bachata dancing
  • Made long lasting friends from around the world
  • Made countless costumers smile and appriciate my work
  • Explored my INFJ personality
  • Explored my Enneagram type 1 personality
  • Read “7 Habits of Highly Effective People” and used it actively
  • Moved to a different Scout Activity Centre where I feel like I fit in better
  • Completed my placement with volunteer work abroad
  • Sold my first gig on fiverr (totally underpriced though)
  • Launched my blog on wordpress, made 50 posts, gained 20 likes and gathered 25 followers
  • Wrote the first few pages of a self help book
  • Got rid of more than a thousand sheets of paper I don’t need anymore
  • Started university and lasted the year out
  • Received my first 5 ECTS points
  • Passed my first exam at university
  • Hosted a succesful teambuilding event for my co-students at university
  • Became 15% fluent in Spanish
  • Got a job as a mentor (tutor/homework helper) 
  • Had more than 20 hours of teaching and helping
  • Received positive feedback from all of my students and their families
  • Became 21% fluent in French
  • Wrote more than 30 thousand words on the INFJ forum

What have you achieved in 2016? Write it down. I did the same for 2015. Instead of making a new years resolution I make these lists. I’m exited to look back at them in a few years to remind myself I’m moving forward in life. This is strongly recommended for everyone, you get a really good feeling when you realised that you actually did a lot of important things in the year that have passed.

New years eve was celebrated with my uncle and cousins. The TV signal failed, so we couldn’t watch the HRH the Queen’s New Years Speech. Besides eating and watching the fireworks I spend the time trying to assemble this puzzle.

Naked emotions

The second action on my 7 day self love challenge is to introduce yourself to yourself naked in front of a mirror. So that’s what I did. It actually felt really good and liberating in some sense. I noted down my emotions as requested and that’s what’s on the picture. I like this challenge so far. I recommend you taking this challenge as well. You have the link right here.

Expectancy

Christmas is a time filled with expectations. The food has to be perfect, your hoping for the very best gifts and you are lloking forward to a wonderful time with your loved ones. Theres barely any room for mistakes this day. 

I’ve been told multiple times bot to have high hopes or I will meet a lot if disappointment. That is true, but it’s also really sad I think. You need to dare dreaming, dare hoping for the best. If not, you will just get use to the ordinary and accept mediocrity. I don’t think it should be like that. Strive for the very best and allow yourself to expect as well sometimes. Otherwise the average will just be a self fulfilling prophesy.

On the subject I can add for fun, that I had power failure today for the first time in years. Power and water is something most of us expect to have available right at hand all the time. Many depend on it for different reasons. Our power supply company has promiesed that it will be back within an hour, but who knows.