Freedom from limiting beliefs

I am fortunate. I am privileged. I am lucky.

I grew up in a loving family and I have always been loved unconditionally. I grew up in a wealthy country and I always had everything I needed. Whatever I did, whatever challenges I faced someone was always there to support me. All the options have always been right in front of my feet. I can decide on any career I want, go anywhere I like and be with whoever I love. I have the right and the power to make any decision concerning my life. I am not held back by anything but myself.

I am free and most likely so are you. The only thing that can hold you back is if you tether yourself to limiting beliefs. Do not convince yourself that you are not good enough, not capable or not worthy of something in life. Of course you are good enough! Maybe not right now, but you will be if you set your mind to it. Dare to dream big and go chase those dreams. Don’t hold yourself back it will only cause you misery. Every goal can be reached if you just break it down to small bits and take action one step at the time.

When I use the term limiting beliefs what I mean is beliefs that somehow prevents you from growing and pursuing your dreams. I learned about this in the INFJ Purpose blueprint course. One of my most dominant limiting beliefs is that I can not do anything that my parents will disapprove. Even though I moved away from home and I am taking care of myself without problems I need their approval for almost everything I do. I get scared if I do something they might not like and I feel guilty. subconsciously many of my decisions are based on: Would this make my parents proud? And I know it is a bit silly for a grown woman living by herself to worry about her parents thoughts on her. But that is my tether: My belief that I can do something that does not make my parents proud.

Now you might ask: How do I escape my limiting beliefs? First you need to recognize them. If you do not accept the fact that some belief of yours is in fact limiting you, then you will not be able to conquer it. Next step is to find proof that it isn’t true. Find examples of something happening to you despite that belief, something positive. A common limiting belief is the fear of rejection. You do not ask for what you want because you are afraid that you will get rejected. Look for situations in your life where you asked for something and did in fact get it. Even if it is small things. Then move to the bigger ones. Also recall situations where you did get rejected, but it wasn’t that bad. Again start with the small things. Maybe you asked to pay with your card but they said they only took cash. Was that the end of the word? Of course not, then you wouldn’t be here. You’ll start realising that your limiting belief is in fact not true at all. You can then challenge yourself to do these things that scare you and goes against that withering limiting belief. Of course it should be meaningful to you, not just disprove it. For example I would not do something just because I think my parents would dislike it, but I would do it because I believed it would make me happy no matter what my parents think.

You will find yourself relieved to get rid of these limiting beliefs and start building empowering beliefs instead. Limiting beliefs is no. 5 on the list of 15 things you should give up to be happy I like this list a lot and try my best to follow these 15 pieces of advise. I am more succesful in some areas that others. I few of them overlap a bit as well, but I believe it is just to make sure it covers it all. I find that whenever I am uncomfortable, restless, sad or angry it is due to me holding on to one of these things on the list that I should just let go (unless I’m sick and that is luckily rare). So unleash yourself from the tethers and live a happier and more fulfilling life.

via Daily Prompt: Tether

Live in the moment

Regrets are a consequence of livening in the past. Being worried is a consequence of living in the future. Being happy is a benefit of living in the moment. Only by bringing awareness to this very second of your existence you can feel calm and happpy. So let go of the past and stop worrying about the past.

Today I realised it is a lot easier for me to do this when it’s the beginning of the holidays. Privileged and lucky as I am, I have more than 2 months of holidays this summer from university. When all the deadlines of the semester have been met it is so much easier to just relax and not worry. Then I experience many happy moments where I’m just aware that I feel good. Conscious happiness is amazing and exiting. It makes me curious how I can facilitate it again.

Living in the moment is truly amazing and I recommend it to everyone. It is relieving and it brings out the best in you. The practice of meditation can help you with this. So choose to be happy in this very second and then just take it from there.

Lessons are repeated until learned

Today I truly feel like I have something to share with you that might actually be useful and interesting for you, more than just satisfying a moment of curiosity. This weekend there’s been an event in my life which I realise now is not mayor, but however it seems to repeat in slightly different forms. It made me think of the quote

Lessons in life are repeated until they are learned

and I strongly believe in this myself. I feel like and believe it is as certain and real as the laws of Newton. Actually, even more certain than that. We are all individuals however and therefore no lessons are by definition harder or easier than any other lesson. Different people experience them differently. What might be a hard lesson for me, is maybe an easy lesson for you. The accept of this concept of lessons in life though, might help you to tackle repeating unpleasant events though. Often lesson are somehow a bit painful or otherwise uncomfortable to learn. If something happens to you that might have happened before in a slighty different way has a lesson for you. Sometimes it is easier to learn it if you know how to spot it.

Along with what I just explained I want to share this photo with you. I found it as I was searching for the quote I mentioned before. I think all of these rules have a strong message and that I will benefit from following them. Rule number 9 is one that I personally work on accepting, following and use to my advantage. It is a work in progress.

Your answers lie inside of you

I wish you all a lovely day and I hope you can learn something from this post or maybe just have something to reflect on.

Unwritten

Today I decided to just let spitify decide the play list by choosing “daily mix 1” and thatvwas wonderful. Apparently it was time for some good old classic pop songs with a fewl good vibe. Especially one song made me smike and think that it describes my current situation fairly well. I like how she refers to her life as a story in a book. The chorus is a cherful reminder of enjoying your life and be curious what it brings you. I recommend you to listen to at your music service or watch the YouTube video. Don’t forget to let the happy upbeat music and cheerful lyrics fill your soul.
With the wishes of all the best to you and a reminder of the guge potential you all have if you just unleash it 😉

#7 of 21 daily blog post

Summer has come to Denmark. Going outside has started to make me worry about sunburn. But it is lovely and the many hours of daylight is truly enjoyable. It doesn’t solve all problems but it does make it a bit easier to deal with. I’m sitting here in the garden and taking a little break before the events of the weekend.  

This weekend I will hopefully learn many new things from my fellow scout friends. We have these days of education where we teach each other a lot of cool stuff. I’m not as active as I used to be in scouting, but I still love it when I do engage in the events. Now I feel like I should invest my time differently. Honestly I’m not the best at it though. My head is filled with all kinds of things abd sometimes I wish it could just be quiet, but unfortunately I’m not able to do so. Processing thoughts is healthy I believe, but I think everyone needs a break through sometimes. 

The cool thing about this awesome place is that it gives me the opportunity to take my mind of some of the daily stuggles. I love to be around the people, breathe the fresh air and look at the beautiful nature. I recommend every finding a place where they can feel like I do here.

#6 of 21 daily blog posts

I know, I am not the best at posting every day. But this is mainly just a challenge to help me push myself to be consistent. Even if I don’t post every day it’s ok if I just improve. I want to improve my writing and I know the best way to do that is to practice.

As a mentor, I help many young students at the age anywhere from 8 to 18. So far it’s mainly been English and Maths. I love that job so much I would not change it for anything. At least not for now. Every time I learn new things about teaching or about my students and their lives. I improve my ability to explain, motivate and be patient. Since they are all different, I am challenged to adapt my approach to each of their needs. In that way, I also practice my skills in “reading” people.

Because of this job I have revisited my reflections about becoming a teacher. What holds me back is a bit odd. I want to prove I can be anything I want, so now I’ve gone for a higher academic education. Actually, I don’t even know if it is a higher degree I think it is the same level. But my level of motivation with my current studies tells me I should do something else. Another thing is the difference between teaching students 1 to 1 and then having a full class of 28 all at once. I prefer a smaller number of students at the time.

Billedresultat for decisions

Right now my struggle is: Should I stay or should I leave my studies? What do I want my future to hold? How do I get there? Is it the life as a design engineer I want? Or the life of a teacher? Or something else?

#5 of 21 daily blog posts

Let me tell you a bit about food. My shopping, cooking and eating habits have chaged quite a bit the last few months. I’m more conscious abojt what I purchase and consume. Now that I buy almost all my food myself (all except when I am eating with someone else) I think a lot about what I invest my momey into and what Iam putting inside my body. I care about my health and I kmow that requires paying attention to my diet. I do not buy or eat meat though I occasionally eat fish when others cook for me. I tried to eat vegan at first, but changed to vegetarian when I was suggested I needed a better source of protein. I get that from eggs and milk now.

Besides my health I also try to be environmental friendly with my way of life. That’s the rason I stopped eating meat. Today I took a new approach and focus on preventing food waste. Therefore I did dumpster divibg for the first time. The reason I didn’t do it before was because I thought it was illegal. But I researched it and it’s not breaking any laws, so I felt good to go. The food on the picture though is not from the dumpsters, but I took both bread, fruit, milk and kale. So pretty succesful for a first time I would say. It’s probably not the last either.

#4 of 21 daily blog post

    So I forgot to post yesterday, but I will make up for it today. This post will be about my hopes and plans for the future. So currently I am studying sustainable design. We havesome really cool content and I learn a lot. Some of it is directly from the professors and some is own research inspired from the subjects we discuss in class. Sustainability and environmental awareness are subjects I’ve enjoyed diving into. And I am trying to adapt and modify my lifestyle to become less of problem for the planet. Among the actions I’ve taken, is cutting meat of my diet and started growing a few food items myself. For many years I’ve tried to use as little power as possible and not have the heating turn ed on when not needed. I use my bicycle when going somewhere if possible. I’m not close to perfect at all, but I’m trying to do little things here and there to get closer.

    Here you see the amazing avocado salad I got when my aunt and uncle heard I was eating vegan and it was absoulute delicious.

#3 of 21 daily blog posts!

  • What do you do to relax and empty your mind? I have a few different ways of doing it. Sometimes I run. Then I also feel good for being active and taking care of my body. I have also tried meditation. It’s difficult though. I’m rarely calm enough to actually enjoy it and feel like I benefit from it. But a third way of relaxing I really enjoy is drawing patterns. The last few months I’ve made mandalas. Like the ones on the picture. These are not even the best, but I will share with you the best ones another day. Have a lovely Sunday every one and remember to relax a bit sometimes.

 

#2 of 21 daily blog posts!

Yesterday I wrote about some quotes. Today I want to share with you why the world is beautiful and why I love to live. As I already mentioned I believe the World sapes according to your mind. I try to focus on all the lovely details of life and that helps me to enjoy the little things. My life is not perfect at all, but I wouldn’t change it for any other life. I’ve traveled the road of experiences and memories. I’ve learned many important lessons, smiled many times and met people that inspired me.

My life is a life I love to live because of a certain kind of content. Something that I couldn’t do without. If I ever lose it, I will lose myself. That special content is purpose. I live because I know someone loves me and someone counts on me. I maje positive differences in peoples life. I help people who need it. I am proud of ny job and I absolutely love it. It brings me joy, it challenges me and it gives me purpose.

Here is one if thise little thulings I love about life. The sunset from my kitchen windowwas beautiful this day. Enjoy your own day and don’t forget to appreciate the little things!