Naked emotions

The second action on my 7 day self love challenge is to introduce yourself to yourself naked in front of a mirror. So that’s what I did. It actually felt really good and liberating in some sense. I noted down my emotions as requested and that’s what’s on the picture. I like this challenge so far. I recommend you taking this challenge as well. You have the link right here.

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Tidy, clean and de-cluttered

Well lets say my tidy up project is… still in progress…

One of my holiday projects is to tidy up, declutrer and rededorate my room. I feel like this is a never ending process especially the de-cluttering part. New things and papers seem to come alle thw time and for some reason I struggle to get rid of them again. I do believe that tidiness is important for a happy life though so I’m determined to cut down on all the mess. This also applies to the “invisible” mess in the drawers, boxes and cupboards. 

A piece of advise for you all out there. If you havent used or missed some thing for a year, get rid of it. Chances are you will either be happy to have less clutter and not miss it at all, unless you know you are going to use it for something specific in the near future. For example I have 3 big boxes under my bed with kitceh gear and other stuff for the day I move away from home. Some of it has been there for more than 2 years, but I know it will have a use within a few years.

Expectancy

Christmas is a time filled with expectations. The food has to be perfect, your hoping for the very best gifts and you are lloking forward to a wonderful time with your loved ones. Theres barely any room for mistakes this day. 

I’ve been told multiple times bot to have high hopes or I will meet a lot if disappointment. That is true, but it’s also really sad I think. You need to dare dreaming, dare hoping for the best. If not, you will just get use to the ordinary and accept mediocrity. I don’t think it should be like that. Strive for the very best and allow yourself to expect as well sometimes. Otherwise the average will just be a self fulfilling prophesy.

On the subject I can add for fun, that I had power failure today for the first time in years. Power and water is something most of us expect to have available right at hand all the time. Many depend on it for different reasons. Our power supply company has promiesed that it will be back within an hour, but who knows. 

Gifts

Today I did some Christmas shopping after turning in my semester project at university. Now I have all the gifts for my family members which I’ll celebrate Christmas eve with. I even have a few extra things for my mum, simply because I love her and she has been so supportive and lovely during this tough time of long days with hard work on my project. I’m looking forward to give all these wonderful things to the people I love. My brother and I are giving the things together. It’s absolutely wonderful to be so good friends with my brother and we really enjoy doing things together. Relationships with friends and family are the key to a happy life I believe. Therefore I intend to dedicate at least half om my holidays to the people I love and care for. The rest will simply be recharging time and time for self improvement in different ways.  


Soon I’ll have to go home, because I’ve spend so much money today already. Remember the best gifts are not necessarily expensive, but they are personal and full love and care.

Busy times

Now the last week before the project deadline we are really busy in our team. I’ve neen taking a ton of notes on corrections we need to do. The to do lists in general seems endless. Hopefully it will turn out great and be finished in time.

Even though uni takes a terrible amont of time and energy I did see my mentee this weekend. I love being a mentor, because I get to teach, inspire and motivate these young people to do good. They even gave me this lovely little glass of dweets for Christmas. I love this job!

Family time well spend by playing our favorite board game. A much needed break from all the hustle and bustle and a good way of being together.

  • Busy? Oh yes.
  • Challenged? Definitely yes.
  • Learning? All the time yes.
  • Looking forward to the holidays? Yes they better come soon!

Stay positive out there… I try and I do recommend it!

The time of (for)giving

How is it possible not to get in Christmas mood when thw shopping mall looks like this? Well, I decided to get some small presents for each of my 4 team mates at uni. We’ve had a rough time, but they are cool people. The tone has been harsh lately, so I want to finish of on a good note. Even though they are very small gifts I hope they will like them and it will bring some good vibes out. Giving is the one way you can use money to buy happiness. So give more gifts, wven if they are small.

A lot of this conflict has been very emotional for me. I tend to loose my temper for different reasons, and then I’m easy to negotiate with. I’m afraid I’ve caused more trouble than help. I’m afraid to admit it as well. I want to be a fantastic and appreciated group member, but it seems I’m not. Over Christmas I will reflect even more on this, and hopefully come out as a better human being. For now I’m focusing on the things that give me energy so I can finish the project in the best way possible. Remember to keep focus on what makes you motivated, so you can finish your projects and reach your goals. 

Succes in the little things

Today I have 3 little stories of succes from the last 2 days for you. I hope you enjoy them and remember to appreciate the smalm victories in your own life as well.

I got to speak to a former supervisor of mine at uni. She understands me on such a deep level and we can relate so much to each other. Her advise means so much more ro me than any other of the couselers I’ve gotten to speak to, because I feel like they come from someone who actually understands how I feel and what I am dealing with. now I need to act on everything she said. but the important things right now is I feel validated, encouraged and ready to take on that challenge. The goal is to get through this semester with a good feeling about it!

Yesterday was another long day at university working on a written exam I turned in today. I have had a good feeling about it, because I believe I made a paper of a high standard. Not many students were on campus so it was fairly peaceful. My team members worked from home, so I also got a break from them. However I did phone and text one of them so we could give each other some feedback on our work. That was really beneficial and felr good. After rereading, minor adjustments and a dew illustrations I turned it in just before noon. So the rest of the day I allowed myself to chill out and do exactly as I pleased to celebrate.

This evening I had a little meet up with a new student of mine in my mentor career. It went really well, and both the girl and the dad seemed positive and hopeful about it. It makes ne so happy to see my students happy and exited about the subjects I help them with. when they do good I get so exited and proud of them. All the lovely and complimenting feedback  just makes it even better. I absolutely love this job.

A few words of advise at last. I heard a young girl say these wise words that I want to share: “Stay hungry, humble and honest!”

Blogging feat Olivia

As promised here comes the blog post featuring a follower! My wonderful and lovely friend Olivia and I had a skype date some time ago and I asked her a few questions. Here’s her answers. Enjoy:

What made you follow the blog?

• The fact that you’re my friend! And it’s a nice way of getting updates on your thoughts and what you’re up to in life. It also feels more personal than Facebook updates.

Do you have a favourite subject on the blog? If so, why?

None – I like the fact that you write/talk about lots of different things!

What is your story of how we know each other?

We met through salsa – the first few months you were just another face in the class. I think the first time I really noticed you was when I saw you putting on walking boots and waterproof trousers, and I thought, what?? This is Oxford! Why do you need them?? Of course I didn’t realise that you weren’t based in Oxford…

Then in January I noticed that you were wearing heels and a dress, whereas in the first term it had always been trousers and practical shoes. I think from there we just got chatting at La Iglesia socials, and between classes, and as I started to learn to lead we could dance together. I feel like we really became friends after I invited you over to mine for a cup of tea, and we stayed chatting and drinking tea all evening!

If you could decide on any subject, what would my next blog post be on?

Probably something about how you tie in the things you’ve been learning on you personal development with the challenges that you face in working in a team.

What would you like to share with readers on personal development if you were to write a blog post?

 I’ve been reading lots of really interesting psychology books recently, so if I were to write a blog post, it would probably be something along the lines of a short book review on each of them. For those interested their titles are:

  • Change: Principles of Problem Formation and Problem Resolution, by Paul Watzlawick Pragmatics of Human Communication: A Study of Interactional Patterns, Pathologies and Paradoxes, by Paul Watzlawick et al.
  • The Structure of Magic I: A Book About Language and Therapy, by John Grinder and Richard Bandler
  • The Language of Change: Elements of Therapeutic Communication, by Paul Watzlawick
  • The Situation Is Hopeless, But Not Serious: The Pursuit of Unhappiness, by Paul Watzlawick
  • My Voice Will Go with You: The Teaching Tales of Milton H. Erickson, by Sidney Rosen
  • A Theory of Personality: Psychology of Personal Constructs, by George Kelly
  • The Art of Change: Strategic Therapy and Hypnotherapy without Trance, by Giorgio Nardone and Pauk Watzlawick
  • How Real Is Real?: Confusion, Disinformation, Communication, by Paul Watzlawick
  • The Structure of Magic, The Language of Change, and A Theory of Personality are all quite technical. Easier to read are Change; Pragmatics of Human Communication; The Situation Is Hopeless, But Not Serious (very funny!); and How Real is Real? (fascinating book about how we perceive our reality).

What do you think? Should we ask Olivia for some book reviews? To ease the task we could ask for just 3 reviews and you can decide which 3 it’s gonna be.

 

Secret Santa

Since my course at university have our own studio we’ve become very social. To spice up December and have some fun, we decided to arrange secret Santa’s. Yesterday I got a pack of chocolate biscuits and I didn’t even notice! However my teammates ask me if they could have some, I said I didn’t have any, they told me yes and showed me. Then they ate some of my buscuits at 10pm while still working on the project. I already ate too many cookies so I saved the rest for today. Sure it’s gonna be another long day…